One of my post-university best friends and I had a falling out that stemmed from her unwillingness to take responsibility for her actions and willingness to project herself headfirst into any relationship that presented itself. I got tired of having to be her cheerleader when it seemed she had no interest in saving herself, but more just having someone to listen to her vent about the same problems over and over.

It has never been said outright, but I’m certain that most of our mutual group of friends felt as though I had abandoned her in her time of need, but to be honest her ‘time of need’ is whenever she has a captive audience.

I’ve washed my hands of the situation and only really see her on group excursions even though she lives just blocks from me.

Lately quite a few of our mutual friends have approached me, exasperated, and all basically telling me the same thing - that they’re on the verge of severing ties with her as well because she’s completely unwilling to even accept a modicum of responsibility, and seems to be perfectly content to wallow in cyclical self-pity.

She needs to figure out what it is exactly that draws her to men that end up putting her in the same situation over and over again - that of the other woman - before she alienates herself further.