aloha nico.

I am LIVID.

I despise men who treat women like crap (well, I despise people who treat other people like crap, but ESPECIALLY men who treat women like crap).

I’ve watched this man treat my friend like SHIT for months now, and I CANNOT FUCKING TAKE IT ANYMORE.

I want to hurt him. Badly.

How dare he??? Who the FUCK does he think he is?

I haven’t said a goddamn word about it until now, but I just can’t stay silent anymore. I told him that he should be ashamed of himself, that it disgusts me to watch him emotionally abuse her, and after almost a year of giving him the benefit of the doubt, I’m DONE. He has fucked up for the last time, and I will do everything in my power to make sure she never speaks to him again.

Usually I limit my involvement in friends’ relationships to advice, but sometimes I wonder - especially when I hear shit like this - if more of us stood up for our friends and said “This behavior is NOT ACCEPTABLE,” would we have to watch it happen over and over?

Maybe our complacency is the problem. We’re so worried about “minding our own business” that we neglect to actually do what’s right.

Do you agree? When is it okay to tell off your friend’s guy? When is it okay to stand up for her? I think everyone concurs that you can intervene at the level of physical abuse - but what about belittling her, making her feel like she’s nothing, yelling at her and generally being a total psychopath?

I swear to god, if I didn’t think this guy would crush me with his bare hands, I would slap him so hard his face would never recover.

I think some people are just drawn to similar situations over and over, see me friend that’s (seemingly) always entangled with unavailable men. You can say something (which I would) but it’s probably not going to change much.

If she’s already been with him for a year, she’s probably got this warped little vision of their relationship, and how he either needs her, or she’s somehow causing his behaviour.

If you do say something, be throughly prepared for it to be thrown back in your face.

Source: juliaallison